If you had to make a choice between success or failure which one would you pick? Sounds like a silly question to ask right? Most people aspire to be something growing up, whether that be a doctor or a lawyer, teacher, writer, singer, footballer, the list is endless. However, I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say, “when I grow up, I want to be a failure”. Don’t get me wrong in life we may experience failures and setbacks that when handled correctly can actually push us towards our goals and dreams (which is another topic in itself), but I’m sure the desired end destination isn’t ever failure. Yet so many are casually driving towards that destination and are doing nothing to stop, turn around and change direction. Who in their right mind chooses to head towards failure? I recently came across a quote by Danni Johnson that I think sums up the problem.

“We do not intentionally groom ourselves to fail but we have not done enough to ensure that we succeed.

What I like about this quote is that it not only highlights the problem but presents us with the solution. That is, to avoid failure we must start modelling success, intentionally doing things that will lead us to success. This is definitely easier said and done and you may be wondering where do I start? So let’s start with what success is!

I believe we are all born with purpose. God had a thought, a plan, an idea so epic and amazing that it motivated our birth. Because of that there is a unique contribution that our lives are to make in this world. Therefore, success to me is discovering what that is and doing it. Now that may seem like a lot but God has given us unique abilities, skills and talents to achieve this. There really is so much potential inside of us, but as much as we have potential there is also a thing called unfulfilled potential and there is nothing worse than unfulfilled potential.

In December 2015, I realised I was so far reaching my potential. I had dreams and aspirations but I was living life so passively, going to work every day, coming home and eating, watching TV, spending hours on the phone either gisting or scrolling Instagram, sleeping then starting all over again.


I knew I had to change the way I was living but I wasn’t quite sure how. I started reading a book by John C Maxwell called the 15 invaluable laws of growth (highly recommended). In this book I learnt a very simple but major lesson that has completely changed my priorities and the way I live. That is, in order to reach your potential you must grow! If you want your life to improve if you want to be successful you must improve yourself, learning to work harder on yourself than you do your job.

I have learnt that there is only a thin veil that separates the average person from the excellent person, the successful person. The successful person realises that they are their most valuable asset and works hard on their personal development. So if you want to see amazing things happen in your life, if you want to be all God created you to be and fulfil your God given purpose you really cannot afford to not grow. This may be simple to understand butnot necessarily easy to do, I have found it challenging at times but this business of personal development is a life-long thing, if you just stick with it you will see the fruit of this commitment.

Here are three useful tips to get started:


No one improves by accident! Personal growth is not something that just happens. No matter how much you wish to grow you will only get out of it what you put in. You must take complete ownership of your growth, stop waiting to be the person you want to become and start being! Start doing something.


“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle

Your daily habits are either preparing you for either an average or extra-ordinary life. So if you want change your life you have to change something that you do every day. Ask yourself what can you commit to everyday that will aid your growth, that will push you closer towards your goals and your dreams. If you’re not sure what to do study the habits of successful people and do that.


“Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.” Jim Rohn   

Many times, the only thing standing between where you are now and where you want to be is your excuses. We can come up with a million reasons not to do something but the truth is if you really want to do something you’ll have to find a way to just do it. Whatever the excuse whether legitimate or not CHALLENGE IT! This will mean sometimes telling your emotions or your fears to keep quiet!

If you had to make a choice between success or failure which one would you pick? It’s not that much of a silly question when you really think about it, what it involves, the sacrifices you’ll have to make, the bad habits you’ll have to give up and the new one’s you’ll have to start.

But I encourage you to make the right choice today and start living in a way that fully aligns with that choice.

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