I’m a firm believer that women aren’t to be objectified or dominated and are entitled to basic rights such as education, voting, equal pay and so on. However, I have come to understand that Feminists around the world have varying goals and intentions and for that reason, it is important, well at least for the Christian woman, to identify when Feminism goes too far..

the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.


It is said there are 3 waves of feminism;

FIRST: Overturning legal inequalities e.g. voting rights


SECOND: Overturning cultural inequalities e.g. women’s role in society

THIRD: Focuses more on the individual identity – it seems this wave is where women have defined feminism for themselves by incorporating their own identities into what feminism is to them. Now this is where it starts to lose sight of things in my opinion, because every woman is different, you can’t incorporate various identities into something that is supposed to promote equality…

The third wave faced backlash with people labelling themselves as ‘PostFeminists’ as many believed that Feminism had lived past its true goals and that the new generation were not actually adding anything of substance. We have all witnessed an increase of sexualised behaviour in our society. In fact, we are at the height of it! Even back then it was debated whether skimpy clothing, pole dancing, stiletto heels actually represent gender quality… Far from it in my opinion.

Feminism is a creature with many faces these days. – EverydayFeminism.com

I mean, did you know there is such a thing as a Slut Shaming?!? Like, seriously!? This is supposedly a feminist movement..


“Slut-shaming is the experience of being labelled a sexually out-of-control girl or woman (a “slut” or “hoe”) and then being punished socially for possessing this identity.” – Huffington Post 

While I believe that no-one should be condemned, I definitely disagree that promiscuity or being sexually provocative is something that should not be glorified in any way shape or form. Christian or not! Apparently, slut-shaming is considered sexist, because men are congratulated for slutty behaviour … SO WHAT? Just because a man can do it without being judged does not make it right.. so why are women fighting  for this please? I have even come across clothes and hats with words degrading words slapped across them and apparently this is empowerment?

We have seen people like Kim Kardashian release naked selfies to the world and defend herself to critics as being proud and comfortable in her body, liberated and empowered. But did the whole world need to see that much body to get such a message across? I honestly think it’s a tactic of the enemy to make us think we are being wronged and this is the outcome. Women are now objectifying themselves. We only need to watch a few music videos or read lyrics by some female artists to see that women are allowing them selves to be portrayed as sex objects.

Our faith promotes sexual purity. This is more than abstaining from sex but a mind-set coupled with how we carry ourselves. This goes to BOTH WOMEN AND MEN.

I think you can start to see why Feminism has gone to far..

Traditionally, some think that faith suppresses women rights. While I can’t speak for other faiths, I can say that the Christian faith does not do this.

“The traditions themselves are not oppressive. It’s the interpretations that are.”  Gina Messina-Dysert 

God created man and woman very much equal, however, what some fail to appreciate is that we are DIFFERENT from our male counterparts. This difference means that our life experiences will also be different; this does not mean women are any less important.

“The word feminism has become synonymous with man-hating when in fact it has more to do with women than men.” – Aysha Taryam

My mentor once told me that if a steering wheel of a car could speak and said that it wants to be a tyre and you made the swap, you would see how the car would fail to function as it was created to. In fact, it would be quite dangerous. Both the steering wheel and tyres are both very necessary for the function of the car but both need to play their role for the car to achieve its purpose.

We may have different functions but we are equally important. The enemy wants a disastrous car crash and so places seeds of doubt and lies into the minds of men and women who then abuse their positions. We should really be celebrating our differences.

One of the most misconceived principles of Christianity is that a wife submitting to her husband means that the woman is the weaker, inferior person in the relationship. Even I believed that it meant the wife has no say and is like a slave to the man. While this is actually reality for some, it is not how God intended it. That interpretation is oppressive and not in the nature of our God. Submission is actually voluntary and not forced. I’ll do another blog post going into much more detail about that.



We totally underestimate the beauty of everyone playing their part and how it would actually benefit both parties.

“It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are.” – Emma Watson

What are your thoughts on Feminism? Tell is in the comments section below!

Mary xo