A few days ago (15 Jan 2018) was ‘Blue Monday’. Never heard of it? Well, this is the name typically given to the third Monday in January and it is said to be the most depressing day of the year! Why? Because most people would have failed or even given up on their new year resolutions. We are about igniting Fruitfulness in the lives of all our readers, so we want you to smash all your new year resolutions. I hate setting the same resolutions year after year so I am really passionate about putting strategies in place so that I can put a big fat satisfying tick next to all my goals by the end of the year.

Hopefully, you are now settled into 2018 and back into the swing of things. (Took me a good few days!) So how are you doing so far?

Why not read on and check against our 4 indicators that you are on track for a fruitful year…

1. You reflected on 2017 

And I don’t mean you just uploaded a bunch on pics/vids from 2017 onto Snapchat (Am I the only one who thinks that’s incredibly annoying lol?) What I mean by ‘reflect’ is critically analyse! Ask all the questions and be honest with yourself..What went well? What didn’t go well? What did you achieve? How did you achieve it? What didn’t you achieve?  Why didn’t you achieve it? What did you wish you did more of? Did you do things that mattered? Did you spend time with people you love? How did your circle help you this year? How did you help them? Do you need a new circle? Is this goal really God’s plan for me? I could go on… but you get the picture? These are the kinds of questions I ask myself. And you should write them down so they sink in and so that you can go back and read your answers. If you don’t know what was good and bad in your year how can you make adjustments in the new year?

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”

If you didn’t do this, it is not too late. Get out a notebook or your notes app and get to writing!


2. You have a plan for 2018 (AND YOU HAVE ACTUALLY WRITTEN IT DOWN)

Most people have goals and aspirations. But most people do not write them down. We always write down important things, so why on earth do most of us not write out our goals?! Did you know people who write out their goals earn up to 10 times more than those who do not according to a Forbes report based on a study done by Harvard. Now, I am not basing the meaning of success or fruitfulness on how much you earn. BUT to earn up to 10 times more than your peers suggests you must be doing something right!

Once you have it written down, you need to go back review it every once in a while. I would say at least once a month. I have got to the end of a year once and as I was reflecting I was like, “omd, I didn’t even remember I had that goal.” Needless to say, that was not one of my achieved goals at that time. I could have avoided this by revisiting my goals regularly.

A great way I find to do this is to create a Vision Board for the year! A pictorial representation of your goals. Hang it somewhere you can see it! The more focused you are on your goals the more likely you are to recognise opportunities to achieve them and take action.

Remember that your goal is not a plan! The goal is the destination… what you need to do to get there is the plan. What actions will you take to reach that destination? Be specific. For example; if your goal is to save £5000 you need to write exactly how much you are going to save weekly/monthly, where the money is going to come from, whether you are using a bank account or a piggy bank and what your deadline is.

My honest advice for those with goals that seem beyond their reach is to start with what you have and do what you can; the rest will follow! Take it one step at a time. If your goal scares you then you are on the right track sis!

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

3. You have a planner (or equivalent) to help you execute that plan!

As a self-confessed stationery addict, I love paper and the feel of physically writing things down. It is therapeutic and clears my head.. I think a lot of you would agree? Not only that, it also forces you to be intentional. I use our Fruitful Life Planner because it literally has everything I need on one page and it gives me a fresh page each day!

This planner helps to break down those goals and actions into day to day tasks when used properly.

Now if you are not into paper and stationery like that then… YOU REALLY NEED TO GET INTO IT! Lool no but seriously, you can make use of apps you already have on your phone;

– Notes
– Reminders
– Calendar

The alerts that you can set on the Reminders and Calendar Apps are super useful, in fact, I actually use them in conjunction with my planner.

Also, if you like using planners but hate carrying them about, you can take a picture f the page you need and then go about your day!

“Until we can manage time, we can manage nothing.”

4. You will have arranged accountability.

Sometimes we need help with motivation! And a lot of the time we need someone to check in with to ensure we are still moving towards the goals. It is so easy to just sit on a goal but not when you have accountability. This can be anyone who cares about you and will challenge you.. you mum, a friend, mentor, pastor, uncle, aunty – just ask!

Since our Vision Board Party in December, we had a lot of people ask about some sort of accountability programme. So I am starting a FREE online group where we can share tips, ideas, encouragement, progress and create a cute accountability network. I would also be providing free monthly reflection printables exclusively to members of the group.  If you would be interested please email us ay hello@shopcocoon.co.uk or DM me just to register your interest and I can add you once it is all set up!

“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to results.”


Were you able to say ‘DONE’ to all the above ? If so, celebrate in the comments! If not, tell us below what it is you need to do!

Wishing you all a Fruitful 2018! xx

The No.1 way to make Scripture work for you.

We design and sell products that are Scripture based, so I am sure you know we love the word of God around here! We are also big on fruitfulness which basically means that for all the activity we do there must be productivity. So ultimately we want to see Scripture produce fruit in your life. And that’s why we love our Scripture Canvases because they help to create an edifying environment in your home and remind you of Gods promises. 

The Bible has been referred to as ‘God’s love letter’ to us or even an ‘instruction manual’ to this thing called life. I pull two things from this;

  1. That it was written specifically for me and for you; and 
  2. That we are supposed to live it out 

Remember that the word of God is true and is living and therefore should not be redundant in your life (Hebrews 4:12). It’s very easy to read and forget or see the Word as this far-away / unattainable thing. 

One of the best ways I have found to make Scripture work for me is to personalise it. 

Here is a quick exercise I was once asked to try and it changed my perspective on Scripture for life! 

Where ever it says ‘love’ in the following passage, replace it with your name. Read it aloud!

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, love is not puffed up; love does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.’ 1 Corinthians 13 : 4-7 

How did that make you feel? Are those statements true?

With the greatest commandment being to love, we should see ourselves all over that passage. Personalising scripture challenges us and helps us to see where we fall short. We should be constantly checking ourselves and using the Scripture as our standard to ensure we level up. This is not to condemn us but to push us to strive to be better. 

Personalising scripture also makes the promises more real to us and its good practice to declare these things over our lives.

Try this one:

‘For God so loved [YOUR NAME], He gave His one and only Son so that [YOUR NAME] would not perish but have everlasting life’.  John 3:16

Can I challenge you to take the word of God more personally ? 

Personalise and tell me what is your fave scripture in the comments below …

“Dear Diary God… ”

Yup, there’s times when I dedicate a set time aside to be in God’s presence and I get nothing, absolutely nothing loool. It’s as if your speaking to a stranger and you must ask them questions to get to know them such as “who are you” or “where are you from?”. At times, we can feel disconnected and it can be a struggle to speak to God directly from our mouth. Don’t get me wrong, other times we can spend hours and hours alone just voicing out our emotions to God and being soaked in his presence, however I realised that those times for me, were not to frequent at all.

Speaking to God is personal, it’s not about who can do the longest prayer, or who prays the loudest or who prays with the most vim (If you go to African churches then you could probably relate to this!) it’s just about a personal message that you would want to deliver to God either through words or even just through a thought in your head.

As I like to read poetry, or listen to spoken word I realised that these thoughts of these poems all had to be written down at some point, right? So, I pondered to myself if I struggle to voice out my deepest fears and thoughts to God why don’t I put it on paper. It started with prayer topics for me. When I prayed, I made a list in my head of all the things I need to tell God about, sometimes it would be such a long list that I would end up forgetting some and not praying about them at all, so I then went to my phone (the notes app) and jotted all my topics there as a list so I could go through each one of them individually with God. Now that wasn’t a bad idea however I started to refrain from using my phone whilst praying as I wanted to dedicate my absolute self to God without any distractions- which was the phone itself.

So, I thought why don’t I just write my prayers down on paper. That way it will be straight from the mind and I could just write out my feelings without saying it aloud which I felt uncomfortable with doing at the time. Think of it as a diary; in a diary you write down everything that happened in the day and you take the time out to reflect to yourself. Bible / Prayer journaling is the same thing, only that you are reflecting to God about your day or any issues that may appear in your life. At first, I started to doubt myself about how this would work. I thought to myself; is this a legit way of praying? Am I avoiding physically talking to God? Is this journaling even a form of prayer? But I realised that God listens to us in many ways and it doesn’t always have to be verbally, it can be through your thoughts or words on paper. Remember God is all knowing, he knows your heart, your needs and your desires already. Whatever the struggle you may be going through, God always understands. However, never completely neglect the verbal aspect because the bible tells us that the tongue is powerful and there truly is something powerful and uplifting about speaking aloud your prayers.

I guess the best part about prayer journaling is that you can look back at all the answered prayers you have received. It’s like a record of God’s unfailing love. When you have received an answered prayer, look back to the week or day you wrote that request down for it and use that as a testimony and reassurance that the God who did it before can do it again. It will stimulate your faith in many ways.


Thanks so much for stopping by. Why not have a look at our collection of notebooks / journals..



Galatians 3:3

NKJV – “Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh”

NLT – “Having begun your new life spiritually with the Holy Spirit, are you now reaching perfection by dependence on the flesh?”


Related imageBefore salvation, we as humans were dependant upon our flesh. We were dependant on what we thought and felt was right, however, the Bible says that there is a way that seems right to a man but the end of it is death (Proverbs 14:12). So, God made a covenant with us via the law (Ten Commandments) to communicate to us what it right and what is wrong. Even then, if you live by the law, you are actually still dependent upon your flesh. The law has not got the power to put us at right standing with God as Romans 8:3 tells us.

“For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending His Son in the likeness of the sinful flesh to be a sin offering.”

Jesus came to save us from what the law could not; he came to establish the new covenant which strips us of our independence so that we no longer rely on ourselves but on Him.

When we became saved we became a new creature with a new dependence.

The word Abba from the phrase ‘Abba Father’ means. Abba means source. A source of a thing is what sustains that thing. For example, a new born baby’s physical source is from its parents and so that is who babies are dependent on for physical sustenance.

As believers, our source is now God. Saying yes to God is to say no to ourselves. We cannot serve 2 masters. God is who we must depend on in order to sustain the life of the new creature we have become. We can in no way sustain ourselves and trying to is belittling what Jesus done on the cross.

Back to Galatians 3:3…

We began this journey of salvation by the Spirit. When we get saved our Soul and Body need to catch up with the Spirit, this is the process that the Bible refers to as being made perfect. Our flesh died and we became alive in Spirit. Romans 8:9 says

“You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to Him.” So we all definitely started in the Spirit, or never started at all.

So where did this shift to the flesh come from? For most people, this is not a conscious decision. There are many reasons, most common being complacency. We get into the routine of our new life and just stick to it. It quickly turns from a spiritual walk and relationship to a religion. The key difference is we begin to depend on the flesh while Christ requires us to depend on Him. To depend on Him means we need to have a relationship with Him. Going back to my earlier example, similar to how a baby also has a relationship with its parents.

The absence of a continual fellowship with God is what it means to ‘reach perfection by dependence on the flesh.’ Dependence on the flesh is to just follow the laws with no relationship, as seen in the Old Testament.

Galatians 3:10 says “For all who rely on the works of the law are under a curse, as it is written; Cursed is everyone who does not continue to do everything written in the Book of the Law.”

We cannot do it by the law and so no matter how hard we try, that curse would be upon our heads. God knows this and this is why He sent His Son. A relationship with Him helps us to stay on track.
I wanted to use this explanation of Gal 3:3 to encourage anyone who has become complacent and shifted into the flesh. This is such a basic yet fundamental teaching.

Here are some tips to avoid falling out of a relationship with God:

  • Find a mentor; someone who is strong in the faith who you look up to and can lean on for advice;
  • Never let your mouth cease from prayer & praise: this is the no.1 method of communication;
  • Study the bible as though it was for an exam. If you just read it, it is unlikely to have real impact in your life. The aim is to understand the heart of God and replicate this in our actions;
  • Go to Christian events and gatherings, get involved in whatever your church / fellowship are doing: this ensures you remain active in serving and learning and constant in fellowship with other Christians. Remember iron sharpens iron;
  • Listen to Christian music and sermons: this is another method of learning and feeding your spirit.

James 4:8 Come near to God and He will come near to you.

  1. Who is your target market? I would define your target market as the reason why you created your brand. View your brand as the solution to a person’s need or problem. What makes your business or brand different from other businesses out there? Knowing and accurately identifying your target market gives your brand a focus that aids in keeping your business on track. Before launching that business or brand think of WHO you’re launching it for and what problem it solves.


  1. Starting your business takes sacrifice. Yes, freebies are greatly appreciated when building that business for the first time. Free photoshoots and investments are always great but YOU need to invest into YOUR business. At the beginning of something it usually takes more sacrifice than reward. It takes money to make money. Prepare yourself for investing more money into your business than you expected. I would suggest making sure you have a capital and this is where your money to invest into your business comes from.

“It takes money to make money!”

Email: hello@shopcocoon.co.uk for more info 


  1. Law of Attraction! Who do you want your business to attract? As a start-up or relatively new business, collaborating with other start-up businesses may not be the best thing to do. Get your business or brand around those that inspire you. Those that can propel your business or brand to its next stage. Collaborate and partner with brands or other businesses that have a good following, reputation and ethos so it can benefit your business as well. And in turn attract your target market.

  1. Know your worth! If your building a business that means that your desire is for it to bring you a level of income, right? That means that the freebies need to stop. The compromising of your prices to suit a potential client that doesn’t even fit into your target market need to end. Don’t get me wrong, providing freebies isn’t always a bad thing but why not provide a freebie to another business or brand that matters! A business or brand that can help you. YouTube, for example is bursting with people that can advertise your product or service and spread the word to their own following. If you have a price stick to it! It is all about finding the balance.


  1. Launch your business when you know it is ready! It’s easy for us to be caught up in the excitement of our new and creative business ideas but when we launch them for the world, can we remain consistent? In most cases, we do not. The posts stop, the excitement dims down and the business gradually becomes something that we regret starting because we haven’t provided what we said we would. Plan, research and plan! This is why your target market is so important. Who are you aiming your social media content to? Can you see a future for your business or brand? Will it still be needed five years from now? Carefully build the foundation of your business away from the worlds eyes and bring a light to it when you know it can thrive! Patience is key!


“We are called to be fruitful, NOT BUSY.”

When I first heard this, it gripped me! If I had a pound for every time I used the word ‘busy’ I’d probably be a millionaire by now.. But I’m not. And that’s because my busy did not produce fruit. There was a lot of activity but not a lot of productivity. I decided to make a change and ensure there was real tangible results from all the hustle bustle of life.


Here are 3 ways the Fruitful Life Planner has changed my life: 


Have you ever been to an event / seminar or even church and left feeling so on top of the world, so full of life, so inspired and motivated …. ?

Yeah, me too! 

A few days later though?

Let’s be real.. it often dies down. 

Imagine if you could feel that same zeal that you feel right after a inspirational event everyday! Imagine how much you could get done.

Motivation / Inspiration is like our fuel to get things done! Imagine a car only getting petrol once every few months. That must mean the car isn’t really going many places, right? This year more than anything I have learnt that us humans need motivation DAILY. 

And I try to get this a few ways, prayer & bible study (pls don’t skip this one, if there is no God in what you are doing, there is no fruit regardless!) and listening to motivational messages on YouTube and Periscope. But the quickest and easiest thing I do is  reading and meditating on the motivational quotes that are on every single page of my Fruitful Life Planner! These gems can make a big difference in my mood and intentions for the day. 

Another way my planner keeps me motivated is the fact that my goals are right at the front. Have you ever got to the end of the year and thought “wow i had that as a goal? I did nothing or very minimal towards it!” But this planner gives you the opportunity to look at your goals as much as you want, its right in your face and so keeps it at the fore-front of your mind.

This will keep you motivated to ensure your days are fruitful!


A lot of us spend a lot of money on planners and other tools that will help us be better. As a result, I make it my mission to not let my planner collect dust on my bedside table. 

So I have to write in it and to do this I actually have to think! Now appointments and meetings are easy, you just slot them into their allocated time. Where it gets difficult is planning my time for personal development and planning my tasks for my businesses. It causes me to think and be intentional and so I end up accomplishing things I never would have had I not taken time out to plan! 

You know what they say, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail and I understand that now more than ever. 

This is also why I use DATED planners. Last year we released an undated edition of our Fruitful Life Planner but I don’t think we will be doing that again because having dates cause you to be accountable. Each page gives you a fresh day to work with. You will feel guilty if you have missed a whole week of your planner or keep transferring your to-do lists from day to day but if its undated you don’t really care, its like you aren’t moving forward. 


One of my favourite sections of my Fruitful Life Planner is the Daily Gratitude section. When I first started doing this, to my surprise, I found it difficult and that should not be so! 

Being content in life is so key to your emotional health and I strongly believe that to stay content you have to stay grateful. Thinking of one thing each day that you are grateful for shifts your mindset. Trust me, a heart of gratefulness leaves no room for complaining. And you really do not want to be complainer. (Click here to read our previous post of how complaining is form of meditation.)

TIP: Make sure you aren’t writing down the same thing in your daily gratitudes. Push yourself to think! Trust me you will be surprised at how much you are actually grateful for. 

All these things keep me Fruitful. Since creating and using this planner I have been more at peace with my busy-ness because it now produces fruit! 

Thanks so much for reading! Can I challenge you to get fruitful? We still have a few May-December ’17 Fruitful Life Planners.. Invest in one today! 

And if you have a planner already tell me in the comments what you love about your planner or how you keep yourself fruitful?


Therefore we must give the more earnest heed to the things we have heard, lest we drift away. Hebrews 2:1

The warning in this verse is so key, I have seen what it can do if you do not heed it.

We are told to give more earnest heed (in other translations, it says ‘take seriously’) to the things we have heard lest we drift away. The things we have heard refers to the word / the good news / the message of salvation.

The word ‘drift’ stood out to me … Here is why:

The definition of drift is when something is carried away slowly by a current of air or water. For example a balloon drifting in to the sky. When something drifts it tends not to have control. When you think of the action of drifting, you rarely associate that movement with purpose or intention because whatever is drifting is carried by whatever surrounds it. We can’t afford to just be carried because Peter 5:8 tells us to be sober and alert because the enemy prowls around like a lion looking for whom to devour.

We can avoid being at the mercy of the enemy by taking earnest heed. So we need to stop being passive and nonchalant. E.g. It is extremely easy to think “I hear the message in church every Sunday, I don’t need to do my own personal bible studies everyday.” Yet, although you go to your uni/school lectures everyday you still think it is vital set time aside to revise. Why? Because you take your exams and education seriously. How much more with the word of God that will do what your education cannot.

A great example is someone falling asleep on a boat for a night without tying it to the shore. When that person wakes up he is going to wonder where he is because it is highly likely that the boat will have drifted pretty far. If the person took seriously their safety, they would take actions to ensure they did not drift. This is how we wake up from spiritual slumber and wonder where we are with God. Such a dangerous place to be because you don’t know what has happened while you have been asleep.
“Whilst men slept, the enemy came and sowed weeds among the wheat, and went away.” (Matt 13:25)

One thing I have learnt is that this walk with Christ is NOT passive. You will not be carried to heaven, you will need to get up and walk with Christ. It sounds cliche but the less time we spend with God and in the word the easier we will find it to sin. We become increasingly tolerant of the things that contradict the word until we are in a really bad place and wonder how we get there.


We need to actively ensure our surroundings are Godly by spending time with Him, in the word and in fellowship with like minded people. Otherwise our sinful nature takes over.

I pray that if you are experiencing drifting that you wake up and take charge of your spiritual life. Seek God diligently! You can’t regret it.

The next part of this chapter talks about why Jesus had to be human.

I would like to point out that verse 7 refers to psalm 8 which talks about Jesus being made lower than angels. The word angels should actually say Elohim, which is God. This was a mistranslation due to lack of understanding. If you grab a study bible and check your concordance, you will see that it also says Elohim. This is because Jesus was made human and humans are lower than God but remember humans are ‘higher’ than angels.

Jesus had to be human so that he could be the appropriate high priest. To redeem us He needed to become one of us. The blood of an animal would not suffice. It is also important so that he could go through what we go through. Eg. He was tempted like we are. Now no one can say God does not understand because He does. He understands your struggles, pains and temptations because He went through them too. Yet He overcame them. He was fully human, so if He could we can. However, just because he was human does not mean He was no longer God, but that is why we have the Holy Spirit. The God that raised Himself from the dead lives inside of us. We basically have no excuse. It is possible to live as Jesus did!! He had to come as a human in order to pave the way for the rest of humanity. So thankful that He did!

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For we are not fighting against flesh and blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6: 12

As believers, we are at war every day spiritually. Believe it or not but the enemy is trying to draw us into his bondage and is never at rest.

As soldiers who have been enlisted into God army, we need the support of other soldiers to successfully defeat the enemy and stay alive. Imagine being in a war and having to fight alone?!


Picture this:

Some soldiers are on the battlefield fighting against the enemies, and they decide to pair up in twos so as to defend one another, but there’s this one soldier who refused to team up and decides to fight all alone. I think we can all assume that the lone soldier is more likely to die first and he is going to be the target of the enemies since he is all alone.

I used to be a lone soldier, and I can tell you I got defeated a lot of times.

I was a ‘secret Christian’, and didn’t have fellowship with other believers. I would go to church, listen and go back home to my lone and defeated life. I was a mess until I decided to join a small group of believers and I got to experience what true Christianity is all about.

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.Ecclesiastes 4: 9 – 10

As Christians, we should NEVER go through life alone.

God does not want us to walk alone. God is all about relationships! We have the privilege to interact with other members of God’s family and encourage one another. There is nothing like a group of like-minded people who share the same purpose of pleasing God regardless of their individual differences.

“No man is an island.”

Here are 3 reasons why fellowship is so key:


Fellowship is all about LOVE. Our God is love, and we must grow to become like him in our characters and to be in isolation from other believers does not help in developing these characters and fruits of the Holy Spirit.

1 John 4: 20 says, “If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” That is totally impossible. As Christians, we exemplify love to the world, and we do that by loving one another.

John 13: 35 says, “Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”

1 Corinthians 13: 3 says we are bankrupt without love and it goes on in that chapter to tell us all about Love and we will see that love deals with the relationship we have with one another. Love is eternal and unconditional, which means we don’t just stop loving others. If we do not have the spirit of love through fellowship with our brothers and sisters now, there’s no way we will be able to do that in heaven. I love this saying from Rick Warren book, The purpose driven life, “Life on earth is just the dress rehearsal before the real production (in heaven).” So we have to start getting ready now.


Fellowship helps us to grow spiritually and keeps us motivated.

Iron sharpens iron.

Like I said earlier, I used to be a lone soldier and I got defeated a lot. This was because I wasn’t growing and I had no one to inspire and motivate me with their faith and walk with God. I was a baby Christian and was totally lukewarm. However, since my first Christian book study with some brothers and sisters, my life has never been the same. I started growing like I ought to, I started spending more time with God. I get inspired and motivated to know God for myself when I hear testimonies from my fellow brothers and sisters about their relationship with God, it inspires me and keeps me going. As Christians we are all at different levels of maturity, so we can support one another and help one another grow. We get mutually encouraged by each other’s faith (Romans 1: 12), and as iron sharpen iron, we also sharpen one another (Provers 27: 17).


Fellowship also keeps us accountable and on track. A lone Christian is more likely to fall back into the world and get off the narrow path easily. But with fellowship, we hold one another accountable in love and truth. Sin is rebuked, and we pray for one another. A true fellowship ensures that all members stay on the right path.

Fellowship in one word is simply family. It’s a special kind of family. We are not bonded by normal blood but we are bonded by the spirit and love of the Father and blood of Jesus. We don’t have to share the same physical features, language, culture or background but we must share the same Spirit.

They say blood is thicker than water, but I say the spirit/love of God is thicker than blood. A fellowship bonded by the spirit of God and love is formidable against Satan. 

Fellowship helps us to go through life and survive as a believer here on earth but it also prepares us for the kind of relationship we are going to enjoy in heaven.

If you are not in a fellowship yet, can I encourage you to please get involved in one. This doesn’t mean just attend and leave, really get involved, serve attend socials and get busy doing the right things!

Hebrews 10: 25 (NLT) says, “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.”

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Complaining is meditation on the wrong thing

Complaining… We’ve all had those days where life gets a little too much and a rant seems acceptable. Sometimes people disappoint us, sometimes life looks like a mess but there’s nothing wrong with venting our feelings, there’s nothing wrong with saying how you feel… Or is there?

We start out with a complaint and realise years down the line that we’ve become complainers. We focus on the negative, we love to play the blame game and our expectation of good becomes so small. And we wonder how did we get here?

Complaining is more than venting. Complaints start from within. Then they become murmurs and then they become a person’s fluent language if not stopped in its tracks. I know this all too well. Not too long ago God brought to my attention a bad habit that I had become desensitised too. I realised I was a person who did not always speak out offence but I would harbour it, chew on it, meditate on it – this is the inward complaining. When you meditate on something it gets bigger.

It amazes me that a whole generation wandered the wilderness for 40 years and was wiped out because of their constant complaining (have a read through the book of Numbers). God had set His people free from Egypt where they were in bondage. They were taken through but God provided for them (Deuteronomy 29:5). They complained about thirst, they complained about hunger and they even wished they had stayed in Egypt, in the ‘comfort’ of bondage. Do you know why God disliked their complaining and He cringes at ours? Complaining is cousins with disbelief and disbelief is lack of faith. Without faith we can’t please God. Our constant complaining tells God the situation is bigger than Him.

In your business, in your family, job and life as a whole, constant complaining is a contamination to your success. When you choose to mediate on the negative, it gets magnified and it becomes your language, which then forms your world. Will you have a successful business if you keep complaining about hard it is? Will you get promoted if you keep complaining about hard it is?

Let’s look at 3 things you should be cautious about when it comes to complaining.. 

1 – Complaining about lost time

First all complaining about lost time is a waste of even more time. We spend too much time thinking about what we should have done and what we could have done. The time is gone! We can’t do anything about it now. I used to be that person. I would say “if only I knew what I know now, back then. I know I would be further ahead.” We need to transfer that misery into the joy of taking advantage of now. Now is the only thing certain. Take time to reflect and evaluate, like looking at the rear view mirror in the car. You need to then look forward and decide what you will do now, that’s looking on the road ahead. If you stare at the rear view mirror you’re at risk of getting into an accident. I tell myself this when I start to feel myself going back to my old ways – do what you can while you can with what you have. 

2 – Complaining when offended

Offence will come, Jesus said this. How do you handle offence? Do you tend to sit on it or harbour it like I used to. Harbouring offence is unhealthy for your spirit because it breeds bitterness and bitterness is a poison that kills the harborer, not the offender. We are allowed to feel hurt and offended. We are human, however because you have great things ahead, you can’t hold onto it.

Pray or pray and express, that’s what I say:

Pray about how you feel, offended or hurt, and choose to let go and let God (Matthew 5:43-48).

You can also approach the person and appropriately express your offence then choose to let go and let God (Matthew 5:23-24).

That means after all is said and done we must choose to stop meditating on it and replaying the video of the offence. Some of us have been through some real situations in our life and it feels hard to move on. This why we have grace and we have the word of God. Asking for grace and strength will empower you supernaturally to move forward and having the word of God gives you something healthy to meditate on instead of complaining.

3 – Complaining in groups

Be very vigilant about the company you keep. The Bible says bad company corrupts good character and similarly negative company corrupts positivity. What is the common language of those you spend the most time with? Your friends influence you and when you decide what type of influence you want in your life, making a decision about the proximity of certain individuals in your life becomes easier.

When you tell your friends about a challenge in your life how do they respond? Are they solution-orientated or do you leave the conversation feeling deeper into the hole than when you started? I cannot boast in having many friends however those I have chosen to have a friendship with all contribute something to my life.

Sometimes complaining and self-pity feels comfortable. It tends to feel better when you’re doing it with someone else. Although it can be a comfortable place it is a stifling and non-progressive place. Don’t allow yourself to sit with a friend remaining in the cycle of complaints. Break that cycle.

I hope this has meant something to you. Don’t be hindered or stop by a complaining spirit. Be great.

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We all make mistakes and we all have shortcomings.

As human beings, we know that our lives are not perfect. I know many of us can look back at a time, (maybe not too long ago) in our lives where we have not made the right decisions.

I know I for one, am guilty of making some rash decisions and following the wrong path. In my case I was quite fortunate to know God from young, I could gladly raise my hand and say that I grew up with a rich Nigerian heritage in a strong Christian household. I thought I understood who God is and what it meant to be a Christian.

My name is Ifeoluwa, which means God’s Love, so obviously, I was drawn to learn about God’s Love.

However, it turned out that I didn’t fully understand this, so when tough challenges and situations presented themselves throughout my teenage years, I stopped going to church regularly and stopped studying the bible. I had seemed to stray from the path of God and His righteousness.

Last year, during my first year at university, I started going down the wrong path, innocently following the crowd. I put myself in situations where I could have been hurt as a result of the bad decisions I was making. I didn’t fully understand the depths of God’s love and grace, as much as I thought I did.

I had been wrestling and struggling with why God has been so faithful and kind to me for all these years, even when I wasn’t faithful to Him.

I was recently reading a devotional on the bible app called “finding your way back to God” by David and John Ferguson. It was an inspirational plan and a reminder about God’s love being so deep, and unconditional, even when we make mistakes it is part of His promise to love us. This led me to a verse I found while I was praying one night:

‘But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.’ Ephesians (2:4-5 NIV)

The English dictionary definition of mercy is “compassion or forgiveness shown towards someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.”

God’s definition of mercy, is not unlike the definition from the dictionary, but there is a deeper and more profound meaning. This verse gave me a brief glimpse of what God’s mercy truly is.

This verse in Ephesians says he is “rich in mercy,” so he has a great deal of it, and it is part of his generosity that he hands out the gift of mercy, sparing us from punishments, even punishments we deserve. Mercy is not just an attribute of God; it’s an integral part of who he is! His mercy knows no bounds!

In Ephesians 2, Paul was explaining the benefits of following Jesus Christ, he explains that naturally our sins would not have been forgiven. But, because of what Jesus Christ did on the cross, through grace, God has had mercy on us. The very act of God sending Jesus Christ to die for our sins is mercy. He sent us a saviour that could what we could not. So, now our past mistakes are blotted away and we are made new in Christ. We are a product of mercy and grace!

Another key theme in this verse is ‘Grace’, which means God gives us things we do not deserve.

Mercy and Grace are precious gifts that God has given me and the fact that I’m writing this blog is a huge testimony of his mercy and grace and the generosity He has shown me. Remember, these are gifts given not because of our behaviour and actions; it is based on whom God is, so I am grateful that He is never-changing.

I pray that we will all be able to know and understand that only by his grace, we are free to live our lives without shame and guilt. I pray that you will be able to understand the immense power of his love and mercy that has impacted your life. I pray that together we can grow in faith and accept his love. I know that when we grow in faith we can show acts of mercy and forgiveness towards others too. Amen.

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